Joan Knierim writes book dealing with grief

PARKERSBURG — A former resident wrote a book on dealing with grief after she suffered first-hand the pain of losing a loved one.

“I Never Knew How You Hurt Until Your Pain Became Mine” by Joan Knierim offers scriptural advice to those dealing with any emotional pain, including the loss of a loved one.

Knierim was married 48 years to the Rev. Paul R. Knierim. As a minister’s wife, she said she also would counsel those grieving, but didn’t realize what they felt until her husband passed away nearly three years ago.

“Until I went through it myself, I didn’t know,” Knierim said.

The book deals with more than the pain suffered with the loss of a spouse, she said. The spiritual advice can aid those suffering any form of grief, such as dealing with medical issues or the turmoils presented by life.

“This applies to all kinds of pain,” she said.

The Rev. Knierim, 73, died on Nov. 28, 2015. He pastored several churches in the area, including the Porterfield Baptist Church in Little Hocking from 1968-1975 and the First Baptist Church in Belpre from 1975-2006.

The Knierims, who had three daughters, were married 48 years at the time of his death.

Knierim was the executive director of the Belpre Area Chamber of Commerce for 17 years.

She now lives in Alabama where she and her late husband planned to move about a month before his death. Writing the book, published in February, took about a year, she said.

“I put my heart out to people,” Knierim said. “It just kind of flowed out. Everything came together.”

Knierim said she was speaking from the heart, someone who now understood what others have gone through.

“I just wanted to help people who were suffering,” she said.

The book is about how God guided her through a difficult time in her life and is the story of her loss and the practical and spiritual advice and encouragement for those who are suffering.

“Often in an effort to help someone, we will say ‘God knows best,’ which causes many to blame God and wonder why He would do this to us when it does not seem best,” she writes in the book. “I am convinced God does not cause most of the things that hurt us; sin and life do.”

The book is 154 pages and was published by WestBow Press. It is available on, WestBow Press, Books-A-Million, Barnes and Noble, Christian Book Stores and can be ordered through any book store, she said.

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