Father’s Day deserves fanfare
Why is it so much easier to come up with a gift idea for Mother’s Day than Father’s Day? Why does it seem like mothers get a lot more fanfare on their special Sunday? Maybe it’s because a lot of fathers aren’t as vocal about their emotions as mothers can be.
Not all fathers are huggers. Or talkers, really. But a lot of fathers are doers. (Mothers are, too, of course.) So they end up with another power saw, another socket set, another tie to wear to the office … things that help them keep doing. Very few fathers will wake up this morning to flowers, a gift card for the spa or theater tickets, although that might be fun; because that’s not how we think of them. Most of us know our fathers as the kind of person who wouldn’t feel right spending time on himself like that.
My dad always seemed to be working on something, for someone. Mom wondered out loud one day what the living room would look like with built-in book shelves along the walls, instead of the book cases that were everywhere. Boom. Dad spent the next couple of weeks tearing up walls and turning them into bookshelves. Mom casually mentioned it might be nice to have the basement finished, in case either daughter needed to come back and have a mini-apartment at home for a while. Done. … well, OK, a year later, done.
Dads take care of the people around them, in their own ways, all the time. Mine quietly cared for his mother during her twilight years, though she lived a 45-minute drive away from us. He made sure my sister and I had the skills to be as independent as we wanted to be. He takes care of my mom in a way that, while my sister and I might occasionally roll our eyes and gag a little, is still schoolboy adorable sometimes. Of course, he works hard at his job; but never at the expense of helping out with, or just spending time with, his grandkids these days.
A lot of fathers are like that. The list could go on and on, and they wouldn’t want you mentioning any of it. They do what they do, partly because it needs to get done, partly because it is the right thing to do, and maybe just a little bit, because they are pretty sure they are the best guy for the job. Don’t ask them if they need help. If they do, they’ll ask you.
But especially, today, find a way to let them know how much you love and appreciate them — these men who walk around saving their own little corners of the world every day. They deserve it.
Tuesday is West Virginia Day. As I am writing this, I have no idea whether there will be a budget passed by then; or what will be going on in Charleston. But the fact remains, it is our day to celebrate the 154th birthday of Almost Heaven. Though the politics may infuriate us at times, we have to remember, especially on days like Tuesday, that the bureaucrats and politicians only THINK they make this great state what it is.
They don’t. You do.
If you love the Mountain State, brag a little bit about her today. It’s a good chance to jump in on the social media effort to share your own little reasons why this is still #AlmostHeaven.
Christina Myer is executive editor of The Parkersburg News and Sentinel. She can be reached via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org