Vienna moms reflect for Mother’s Day
VIENNA — With the experience of their own children and several grandchildren and beyond, three mothers in different eras in Vienna shared what they recall of their upbringing, raising their children and enjoying their grandchildren.
Deloris Chancey, of Vienna, said her mother did not live with her and her father and did not do much to celebrate Mother’s Day.
“My two girls, they’ve always tried to make Mother’s Day special,” she said. “I have two living daughters, which means I have one gone, and now the fun starts, with five grandchildren, and eight great-grandchildren.”
When asked if she is expecting great-great-grandchildren anytime soon, Chancey said, “I hope not, the oldest (great grandchild) is about to get his driver’s license.”
Ann Johnson, of Vienna, said counting her children gets complicated.
“I always sang to my mother and we always got together with her and I always sang ‘What a Wonderful Mother,'” she said. “I had seven brothers and one sister; I’ve had three sons, seven stepchildren, and three great-great-grandchildren and step granddaughters.”
Johnson said she never had daughters, but she is close to her two sons and taught them the same, she said. “They are married and have grandchildren of their own.”
Chancey, Johnson and Kern said their experience is the younger generations do not ask advice in raising children.
“They don’t do that,” Chancey said. “They don’t listen to us when we do talk anyway.”
Chancey said the world is different from the one in which she raised her children.
“I have found out the biggest thing you can do is not to criticize, but love,” she said. “With my little granddaughter I want to criticizes what she wears, I did that one time and it hurt her.
“Now I say ‘Hi darlin’ and she grabs my hands and tells me they are cold. Love gives love.”
Kern said they all have to bite their tongue at times.
“My granddaughter’s husband just retired from the Air Force and while they were looking for a place to live they decided to come back here,” she said. “He said he wanted his children to know their grandparents.”
“That is so right,” Kern said. “The grandmother is the center of my whole life.”
Kern, who has a son and daughter, said her youngest has hit 30 and did not ask for advice because “they think we are out of touch, but they want us around,” Kern said. “They was to make sure we are going to teach them the things I taught her. She doesn’t want it through her but from around her, does that make sense.”
“Yes,” said Chancey. “If grandam said so it must be true.”
Johnson said the same happens with hers. Her mother and mothers of her generation were sticklers for rules like washing hands and she was also.
“They don’t seem to teach that today,” she said.
Kern said she was taught to call elder Mr., Mrs. or Miss and she taught her children the same, but many do not do that today.
“It shows respect for the elders,” she said. “Today they call their teachers Miss, along with their first names.”
Chancey said she taught her children the same and it was something she was taught and even as an adult she called older individuals Mr. or Mrs.
Kern said she was at home until her children went to college.
“My grandmothers watched all eight for their grandchildren, while our parents were at work,” she said. “I had trouble watching two, I was thinking how could she do that.
“She stayed home and made us lunch, she took us swimming, you don’t hear much of that today so much has changed.”